I'm totally fine if people have no interest in my travels--I get it, it's not for everyone. And honestly, at work, I really try to not talk about my trips unless specifically asked. It's a workplace, and I'd much rather talk about work. My current coworkers and bosses typically ask a few interested questions, I share a few photos, tell them I had a great time, and we leave it at that. I'm more than happy to answer questions, but I don't just spew information like a volcano.
But what about people who ask about where you are going next, or where you have been, and then crap all over it? Now that, that gets to me. I mean, what's the point? I'm going to continue traveling, so you telling me that everyone in that part of the world is rude or chauvinistic (or uneducated or whatever) really doesn't accomplish anything. In fact, it makes me want to try to prove you wrong even more than before.
But there has also been way, way worse. Disparaging comments about developing countries and how the people there must not like to work? Check. Judgment on how my traveling to Egypt shows I don't support the United States? Check. Telling me I'm wasting my time flying 14 hours because the place is dirty and disgusting? Check.
My typical responses:
-I'm sorry you feel that way.
-That's an offensive statement.
-I/We are very excited to see a new place and culture.
-That's simply not the case.
-I try not to stereotype or generalize about people/places before I visit.
-It's important to me/us to have new experiences.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't: I don't want to validate their feelings/beliefs by sitting silently, yet I also don't want to argue with them as I don't feel as if I will ever change or impact their perceptions of "the world". Debating with most of these people is totallyfreakingpointless. I'm too young, too sheltered, too "unworldly" to understand what they are talking about (rolling eyes here). And when this has occurred in a professional--not a social--setting, I have really struggled how to manage these comments. Can't we keep the professional space...professional (GASP)?
Maybe I'm being too sensitive (likely), maybe they are completely out of bounds (also likely), and maybe I don't let things go quickly enough (proven occurrence). And I've honestly tried to avoid these people and these conversations as much as possible--I'd much rather associate with people who like to travel (or at least can feign a polite interest). But in the real world, that's just not always possible.
Have you had people say something inappropriate/offensive about the places you are going or have been? What do you do/how do you respond?